In fact I think the quote hits on a truth, that we often ignore: We are constantly changing. But we ourselves think of ourselves as absolutely stable. We also change our history in our memeory to fit with our current state.
But if we think (and I do hope we do) we change our views (even if by minute quantities). If we talk we also do.
Some conversations will reinforce our thoughts and views and some will change considerably. But for most people there are few moments of sudden change (Damascus experiences) where the direction changes by a vast angle.
@ponderablesaid In fact I think the quote hits on a truth, that we often ignore: We are constantly changing. But we ourselves think of ourselves as absolutely stable. We also change our history in our memeory to fit with our current state.
But if we think (and I do hope we do) we change our views (even if by minute quantities). If we talk we also do.
Some conversations will reinfor ...[text shortened]... are few moments of sudden change (Damascus experiences) where the direction changes by a vast angle.
Without changing we would find it hard to take part in social life, and these aren't big changes but the small adaptations to make us fit in. And even more so in close relationships to make them work.
@torunnsaid Without changing we would find it hard to take part in social life, and these aren't big changes but the small adaptations to make us fit in. And even more so in close relationships to make them work.
Healthy humans are malleable by others they form relationships with, how much depends on the nature of the relationship.
@drewnogalsaid And then there’s the baggage, the stuff we find hard to get rid of.
Not least the baggage, and our recollection of experiences which is hardly ever factual - they live in our minds perhaps totally different to how others remember them.
We let go of friends or lose friends, we change.
the micro vibrations of the butterfly's wings
way down there in the land of bikini wax
changes the melt ratio of antarctica's glaciers
but i blame it on the boeing max
"When two people meet, each one is changed by the other so you've got two new people." ~ John Steinbeck
Is it really so?
In 'Of Mice and Men,' it is not so, and we have the twins as proof. This poses another identity question: Which of the two is Lennie?"
There is a nice song which came from the meeting of two minds, Andrew Lloyd Webber & Tim Rice, which expresses the sentiment of having been changed by a specific meeting. However, some will argue that only one person's identity was changed.
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